Episode 039: Bestselling Author, Fran Hauser and “The Myth of the Nice Girl”

“Nice” is a loaded word for women. If you’re too nice, you’re a pushover. If you aren’t nice, you’re the “b”-word. Join the 4 Chicks as superstar author and professed “nice girl,” Fran Hauser, shares her story of success in spite of, or perhaps because of, her determination to be her authentic self and be a “nice” person in her personal and professional lives!


 

Resources for This Show:

Fran Hauser–www.franhauser.com
The Myth of the Nice Girl
Fran Hauser, Twitter & Instagram
Nice Women Finish First When They Ask the Right Questions.“–Forbes Magazine
LinkedIn

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4 Chicks Brilliance Bombs:

  1. You can be nice and assertive at the same time; you don’t have to choose.
  2. Women, SPEAK UP! Especially when men are in the room!
  3. Know what you’re talking about and OWN your expertise and value.
  4. Be thoughtful about networking and make meetings mutually beneficial.

Show Notes:

00:30 Fran Hauser is here! The Myth of The Nice Girl

02:00 “How can you be so nice and still be successful?”

03:00 Fran’s blog for Forbes: “Nice Women Finish First When They Ask the Right Questions

03:36 There is a happy medium between pushover and bitch.

There is a happy medium between pushover and bitch. Read The Myth of the Nice Girl, by @fran_hauser for more! #4ChicksChatting #podcasting #womeninspiringwomen @fran_hauser @rgrahamphotos @kmmdisc @kristinsmedley @maryfbontempo Click To Tweet

04:00 Timing is everything–the right moment for this book.

05:15 Niceness needs to return to society’s conversation.

05:30 “You can be nice and assertive at the same time; you don’t have to choose.” Fran Hauser

You can be nice and assertive at the same time; you don't have to choose. ~ Fran Hauser #4ChicksChatting #podcasting #womeninspiringwomen @fran_hauser @rgrahamphotos @kmmdisc @kristinsmedley @maryfbontempo Click To Tweet

06:00 You can be both nice and strong.

06:36 The nice girl mindset: empathetic, collaborative, abundance. Just because you win doesn't mean I have to lose. #4ChicksChatting #podcasting #womeninspiringwomen @fran_hauser @rgrahamphotos @kmmdisc @kristinsmedley @maryfbontempo Click To Tweet

07:50 Let’s move away from compartmentalizing labels.

08:55 This book gives women permission to act naturally. We want to be nice.

09:30 Don’t check kindness at the door.

10:00 Taking on a “tough” persona that doesn’t represent you is exhausting; be authentic.

10:30 Confidence emanates from being yourself.

12:15 Women need to speak up when men are in the room.

  • Pick an agenda topic and rehearse your thoughts
  • Have conversation starters to help you speak up–“Building on that….”
  • Take a stand–literally. Stand up if you aren’t being heard.

15:25 Insert yourself intentionally into conversations

16:24 Impostor syndrome–Aaaahhhh!!!! Speak up; what’s the worst that can happen?

19:15 Know what you’re talking about and OWN your expertise and value.

Know what you're talking about and OWN your expertise and value. #4ChicksChatting #podcasting #womeninspiringwomen @fran_hauser @rgrahamphotos @kmmdisc @kristinsmedley @maryfbontempo Click To Tweet

21:15 Work on your confidence building–it’s a process

23:40 Be intentional about networking–make a list on LinkedIn

25:25 Network ending questions: “How can I help you?” “Is there someone else you think I should meet?”

26:00 Don’t be parasitic–“I want to pick your brain.” Find a way to make a meeting mutually beneficial.

27:35 Fran Hauser is an “angel investor.” Check out her portfolio, here!

29:00 Thank you, Fran Hauser!

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